Who can admit they sometimes struggle to communicate with their coworkers, spouses or kids?

It’s okay if you don’t want to admit it — because we know there are only a few people on the planet who are true masters of communication. Communication can be extremely difficult since words can be interpreted in so many different ways.

Just think about how much is lost in translation when we try to communicate via text or email versus in person. Have you ever told someone they looked nice, and it’s interpreted as they don’t look nice every moment of every other day?

I’ll be the first to admit I have put my foot in my mouth on multiple occasions, and it will most likely continue long into the future.

 

Now, let’s throw the different developmental stages of kids and try to communicate. Parents want their kids to understand their language and kids want to be able to speak their parent’s.

 

The only issue is this doesn’t happen very often. And rarely are people asked to verify what they just heard.

After a conversation, kids usually need to repeat back the instructions so everyone is on the same page and there isn’t confusion. This simple step can eliminate a future argument.

It’s important to learn your kids language, not them learn yours. They haven’t had 20 plus years of communication under their belt. Keep things simple and the kids will start to respond. Yes, it’s important to have them around when adults are discussing ideas and complete concepts, but don’t assume they can already deduce the difference.

Frequently kids tell us their parents don’t understand them. Of course they don’t, because kids are super simple. Parents tend to make everything more complex than it has to be. The simpler the language the more likely the child will understand you.

Be real with your kids. They can be the best litmus test. They know when you’re blowing smoke.

Communication is difficult — spend some time learning how your children respond to different forms of communication.

If you really want to be a hero, learn how to better communicate with your spouse. It will transform multiple areas of your life.
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By Gordie Bufton